when u are looking for your future, u will never find it in your past

when u are looking for your future, u will never find it in your past especially when it comes to bringing your last relationship troubles into your new one... punishing the new person for what your last one did to u. taking the hurt of your last relationship out on the new one, no matter if they deserve it or not....making them guilty before innocent, being selfish and withholding kinds things u used to do because "they last one didn't deserve it" or closing yourself off. you are in the new relationship having a 3some, because u r still dating the ghost of your ex..... it's never just the 2 of u, you are still bringing the ghost of your ex along...... during every outing, in every arguement, everytime they do something to remind u of a situation, everytime an old song plays...... well that's what your actions say....Without the end one story, you can't really begin another. It becomes a sequel of your past struggles. Poisons everything else thereafter... you cant have tomorrow until u are willing to let go of yesterday...... when u are looking for your future, u will never find it in your past........ what binds us to that? (which in most cases is usually a matter of forgiveness) funny thing about forgiveness is that it doesn't free them....... it frees urself, releases you from that painfull attachment and momory that binds you to that person... u may not think so, you may have burried that seed and think you have forgotten about it, but, just cause u dont see it anymore, doesn't mean it's gone... it's simply just under the surface...... but what do all burried seeds do? ....grow roots..... if you dont up root it in forgiveness and give it away, the next thing that will happen is that u will be lost in a jungle of your own design..... and every person u look at, and date will start to taste alot like that bitter root.......... if it's not that, it is usually a hidden bondage from the spirits of doubt and fear in your life (but hey that's another blog altogether and i know peeps dont read long blogs lol).......... infact i have too many places to go with this one so i'll cut it off here b4 it gets to any real meat